Adult – Deeperlook

Preamble

I am so glad to be back….

Who missed me?🙊

Good posts will continue as usual, I have not exhausted my topics.

NOTICE: Arts in this post are mine and are all marked. Kindly do not save, just enjoy their veiw. Their original format were edited for this post.

Let’s move….voom….

She

The conversation taking place is not the exact conversation, a mash up and mix up….

“I am not your mama”

“But you are my friend” (only known for less than two weeks without any meaningful knowledge about each other)

That was a bait to baby *she*

“That is not it. You should know what is good for you. I already showed you help, I cannot drag you”

*silence*

Baby adults

I have low tolerance for adults who love to be babied. It really makes me (unavailable vocabulary)

They enjoy people telling them what to do everytime. Most times they will purposely not do what they are supposed to do because they expect you to do it. It is a habit and it is intentional.

I do not tolerate, neither do I encourage such trait.

The interesting thing about these set of humans is that they are good with words. They know how to flatter you to keep you doing what they want. They are good at manipulating your emotions by trying to make you feel bad when you try to avoid encouraging their behaviours.

They flatter alot

What does mama have to do with it?

I used mama because those were the words that fit in my mouth but it also includes papa. Parents are the ones who discipline their children. Those children grow up to become adults. Those adults get to live with other adults during higher education period. It is not the responsibility of another adult to correct you like your parents. The method should not be the same because the heirachy and ranking (synonyms) is different.

Your adult friends are your friends not your parents. You are an adult too.

Empathy or spoiling

Empathy is the ability to associate with people’s feelings and provide comfort as much as you can. It is a neccessry trait that helps us to show compassion to those who are hurting and going through tough situations.

It is not equivalent to encouraging laziness and lack of self discipline in another individual.

I noticed that some individuals love to parent full grown adults (tautology😂😂). They think they are being the matured one by encouraging unhealthy dependency from another individual….

The lie

These individuals who intentionally appear vulnerable think they are smart by playing tricks to get others to do whatever they want.

They have not worked on me

My allergy to such behaviours make me appear very strict (well…..maybe I am naturally strict😂😂) and discourages the other individual. It sure comes with colition, and resistance but at the end the other individual realizes I do not buy such pattern, and soon their real personality plays out, and it not as childish as they make it to appear.

How to identify such humans

Be observant

Notice how they repeatedly do the things you have told them not to (especially the ones they have agreed is improper)

Notice how they leave things for you to take care of, including their personal items that they would not take care of.

Notice how they tell you that they would try better next time but that time never comes.

Notice how they thank you profusely but never make an effort to do something that would benefit you.

Notice how they whine and cry about every single event including the ones they are at fault (others are always wrong), and in these situations they want you to back them up without evidence.

They are quick to call you ‘friend’. It is their subtle way of making you feel very important within a short period of time. They want you to become too comfortable and create a version of themselves that will allow you do what they should do.

Notice how it is difficult to reason with them. They either try to brush you off and avoid the conversation or break down in hysteria (it can get that bad). In most cases you will always be the bad guy, and even when they are wrong they would not applogize (sari, take an ice cream🍦)