The Problem With Beauty👾

Preamble

As usual, you already know😤. This topic has been brooding on my mind for quite a while now but I did not write it down on my list of topics yet😯.

I decided to share it.

It has been a while I posted. My veteran posts are fed up with me but since I already wrote them down, they cannot escape😒. Forgive me old posts, you need more energy that is why it is taking me time to write you😥😢.

Okay……..

Chelsea

“Chelsea is that all you are putting on your face?” Tayo asked

“Yes, you know I don’t fancy a lot of make up on my face” Chelsea replied

“I don’t blame you na. It is because you are beautiful. People like us have to, if not you will steal the show” Tayo teased as she faced the mirror applying foundation to her face

“You have come again. Haba now, you are not ugly” Chelsea laughed

“Abegi, don’t try to comfort me. You did not even put make-up but see how you are looking. I am very jealous oh” Tayo relied, she was putting eyeshadow on her upper eyelid

Chelsea laughed nervously. She picked the hand mirror she had placed on the bed they shared and stared at her reflection again.

Was she looking too much?

“What is it?” Tayo was watching Chelsea from the mirror as she smacked her lips, she wanted her red lipstick to paste properly on her lips

“Do I look too much?”

“You looking fine as always. Let us go” Tayo said as she grabbed her purse and looked at her reflection once more

“Is my dress okay? I think it is too plain” Chelsea continued

“What else do you want to wear? You look radiant. Abeg let us go” Tayo said as she left the room

Chelsea checked herself again. She looked okay. Simple and nice. She asked that question on purpose. It was okay if Tayo looked better than her, if not she would not hear a single word. Tayo will continously compare herself untill they reached whatever event they were going to.

It was time for pictures…..

They said cheese like 10 times but almost 6 of them were deleted because Chelsea looked prettier.

Chelsea laughed inwardly. Each time they asked for a new picture she would push herself further from the camera so their glittering eyeshadows would make more appearance.

They could take the spotlight, she did not need that to validate how she looked. If it would make them feel more comfortable around her, she did not mind…..

Is Chelsea doing it right?

My side of the story

As usual, this story was spontaneously written for this post, and I already love Chelsea😂😂. You will know why……

You see…..it took me a while to accept I was beautiful.

And after the acceptance came the struggle with acceptance of what the society understood and wanted to do with beauty.

I have joked in the past; that only the famous or rich who are beautiful can be popular because of it.

Those who do not have the opportunity to smile in front of expensive cameras do not get to show the world the beauty they posess.

In other words, everyone can be a model. It is about location and opportunity.

Beauty does not guarantee anything but can maybe put you in an advantaged position, that is if anyone notices….

After realizing that beauty was not enough to be accepted by the society, I further leaned into appreciating myself without really seeking for it outside, and it worked for me. I literally look into the mirror and appreciate myself, and love on myself. I do that often.

To the point that I believe I do not need much need qualifiers. I am comfortable to be the least pretty. I will say why I said this😅😅.

Most times, I noticed that femakes love to be the most beautiful among a crowd of other females. I do not know why the craze but, females will spend a lot of effort to look better than another person. To be the shining star.

No offence though but I feel that is trying too hard.
It feels like, there is a sense of superiority when they are the best dressed or best looking🙄

After all the effort, the one they are competing with does not put so much efforts and still looks the best.

I have thought on this topic for a while and I have decided to write it…..

PROBLEMS BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE FACE
1. People feel intimidated by your presence.
2. It is beter if you are the ugly looking one in the picture😂😂
3. They are in a haste to take you nice pictures
4. People think you have a lot of friends
5. People think you are proud
6. People expect you to be nice
7. You are beautiful, so you should not have problems
8. There is search for a flaw you have, so that it can be magnified
9. You are not sure if you are liked genuinely or not
10. KahsghsjaiIb

Forgive me😂😂😂😂😂

My list is so hilarious but there are elements of truth in them.

Most of the times, I am very conscious of others around me and try hard not to appear better than them. Maybe that is abnormal but if they would look better to feel better, then fine.

If you are fine and you know it, you will be content with that. No struggle.

I appreciate beauty and I see it as God’s therapy for humanity. When you see a beautiful face, it can make you smile and smiling is important for your face.

If not, tell me why everyone wants cute babies🙄

Okay okay okay okay

I also believe in inner beauty. That is character.

Having a beautiful character is very important. It radiates outside and causes you to shine more.

Being physically beautiful is not enough. If you add a beautiful charcater, then I call that Wholesome Beauty

Physical beauty can be bought with money. Character cannot be bought. It is earned through personal development.

O.R.A

Beauty is Art. The way you express it, makes it have relevance.

If you are beautiful, please be happy about it.

Smile at your reflection and love that beauty.
If you are in the middle, your smile can work it through.

Moreover…..beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder…….

You thought it was a beauty guide talk? Nah……

Just ramblings ……..

MeArt

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The above pictures is that of a typical African in her sun-gaps (threaded hair) and wrapper for covering of the body.

It is a selfie😎. The hair was done by me without the intention of taking pictures but it turned out as art😁

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HOW TO SPEAK A LANGUAGE YOU DON’T KNOW✌〰🇳🇱🇳🇬🇵🇸🇰🇷🇰🇾⬜🔺🔷🔻🔸🔹🔵◼✨

PREAMBL3(E) ⏳

Too much emojis today and sincerely I did not eat lots of sugar. I usually get hyper when I consume uneccessary large quantities of sugar😏.

As usual, I will tell you about the history of this blog post and how it jumped the queue.

That is right! But today’s own is not spontaneous, it has been on my mind for a while, I did not just write it in the precious space of topics😏. I had planned to write the oldest waiting topic but because of the detailing that I want to do with it, it is still taking more shape in my brain world. I will hopefully share it soon because it is more than a year old now😆😆.

So……..let me continue🏄

LANGAUGE ISSUES!!🙄🙄

I had the opportunity to stay at different locations where different languages were spoken but I tell you, I have a big issue.

Learning languages is a big deal for me and sadly enough people tell me it is either I dont like the people or I am not interested (pronounced in…..te….re….sted)🙄🙄. It took me time to learn my native language and comprehend it and I am grateful that aside English I still know another unique language (so grateful).

I have been exposed to French and for ya information, not in France😏😏 but in my primary school. The school taught in French and English, and it was a wonderful experience. I was able to communicate, write and read francais but after moving from that particular state in Nigeria (my home country. Hope this is even correct English😂😂) to another state, the learned language began to fade😒 due to change in system of teaching.

Ankways, with the loss of that language came the oppprtunity to learn another language and…

As an official recluse, with few moments of speaking and interacting I did not learn anything😂😂. I felt more comfortable in English and spoke away……

By the way, in the former state I had stayed, another language was spoken there which I did not learn too.🙄🙄

Finally, in another totally new environment for kkasgsh years and it is only recently I am picking syllables and trying to also learn some of the languages I had experienced in past…..

Some of us are special😚😏

Kuku and her sarcastic eyes. Keep ya opinions!!🙄😂

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So many times I have been teased to a fault with my assailants not showing any interest in teaching me. Funny how they do not show in..te..rest to teach whereas those who have taught me some stuffs rarely teased me🙃. I got tired of explaining some biochemical issues of why my special brain found it hard to articulate languages and I needed some time (maybe😶).

I am tired of talking about it already, let me give you tips to help you😂😂

SPECIAL SUPER DUPER TIPS✨😁

Okay….

Rubbing my hands in my head because I am typing…😶

Let me share what has helped me, and all you need to have is your brain, your eyes, your head, your mouth, few syllables of the language, and your…..brain💭

• Look at the speaker attentively
• Watch how their mouth is moving
• Use your number 6⃣
• Nod your head after like 5 minutes the other person has been speaking
• Make sure to say “Uhuh”. “Ahah”. “Hmm”. “Ohoh”
• Watch their body language. If they seem excited, smile. If they do not seem pleased, show concern. If they are complaining, give a “I wish I understood” smile. If they are laughing, do not laugh louder than them, just a small laugh
• Try your best not make them too uncomfortable (try your best!)
• If you can, excuse the place and give them a cute small wave (like bye bye👋)
• Simplest tip of all, tell them you do not understand the language…..(Like “Malesh, ma arifti😎)
• Okay…this tip is for those who know some scramble sqable, mumble jumble some few syallables you know. If you can introduce yourself, then try and tell the person you may not know how to continue😆😆

Fly away like Chiko😂😂

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I have tried these tips and they have worked!

Dont ask how, I just told you!😂😂

Also, as I have been able to pick more syllables and comprehend some of the words in this new environment, I have been able to understand what the other speaker may be saying but responding may be the difficulty. In other cases, I was able to scale through without looking too awkward.

As an individual who enjoys Korean series and repeat the ones I love a lot, I have been able to pick some words too and enjoy throwing them everywhere (if you read my previous posts, you will notice).

Languages are beautiful and knowing a lot is even more beautiful. I have met amazing people who speak several languages with ease and it is beautiful watching them. Like beautiful.

I also noticed that the ability to speak more languages makes you a bit more easy to be around with and a more entertaining individual. The benefits are a handful and I will always encourage and admire it.

I still have my plans concerning this particular language, and hope to make better progress.

Fluffy is still staring into outer space🚀. She dunno😂😂

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Most importantly, be kind to people you meet. A smile is a very good place to start even when you cannot speak a language. As you move up and down (if you do) more opportunites to meet people are presented to you, make the most of it…

Okay…..

Let me try and do what I need to do…

Ahnyon…..

Aurevoir

Salam

Kachifo….

Okay…the remaining, I forget…..🚀🚀

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I LOVE YOU TOO💝💓

I first heard this word (a text)from one of my best friend some years ago. I found it hard to reply but she was persistent until I allowed myself to say it to people that I really wanted to say it to.

As a Nigerian, these words are not very common within the household (maybe it is changing), you just know that your parents and siblings love you😂😂

Why?

They ain’t going nowhere after a bad fight. They literally see your messed up sides and still live with you. They fight others for you. They still find a way to hang out with you. You have basic needs provided (like c’mon you ain’t sleeping under the rain or begging for food). You miss them like crazy when you are not with them despite all the troubles they give you😂😂

You just know by some telepathic powers somewhere.

In Africa, family means a lot but saying “I love you” is not.

So, when I got to hear these words, they meant a lot and I decided to practice using them on my friends (mainly girls🙄). It made me feel nice like a flower🏵🌹 (actually I am a Rose. I love all colours but peach or red is nice too)

As I get older 🐢, I have met more people who use it freely with extra hugs too🤗 and some of those times they really were therapy especially the hugs😍

I decided to pass this beautiful something to my beloved family. I pester them with these words and they respond😁😁. It was a matter of starting it first.

The beauty about telling people nice and sweet words is that it could be the therapy a person needed. You became a sunshine being and lightened a person’s face and heart with your kind words.

N.B It would be best to mean it too. When said insincerely you rob it if its beauty.😑😒

Something else🌝🌚

I usually refrain from using it on the opposite sex (males) because I don’t want to be misunderstood. For now I limit the use on females and my family. It is a vintage woman’s boundaries.

Just mine . ..

My kids will get to hear tons and tons and tons and tons of it (hehehehe😊)

Back🐰

When using these words you may need to know if the person you are saying it to will be in same line with you or go overboard or underboard. It is beautiful when both of you are in a mutal understanding of what you mean by saying it, so it would not become an akward situation like…….

This…staring into blank space

Be sincere in your words and actions

This post distracted me…..I have to be gone…..

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Okay….

Bye……

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AFRICAN PARENTS 😊💑

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We will be talking of one thing and the next minute or maybe seconds,  they will jump into how this generation is loosing it 😂😂.

“In our own time…. ” am sure you have heard that countless times…. 

Sometimes we would be on the same page oh then next thing it has turned to more than one hour of advice 😂😂😂😂. And I would be like,  ‘we were on the same page na?’😂😂😂😂

They care so much but sometimes will try so hard to mask it 😊😊. Mother will always want to stuff you with food!!!!  Especially if you school faraway like me!! 😂😂

And when you are returning to school,  she forgets about excess luggage. I have to remind her “I cannot take excess luggage”❤❤

“Children of nowadays” I know I will say that to my children 😂😂🙄🙄. They can offer advice and your studies? Take it seriously!!

Seriously, their sacrifices are just so heart digging and most times they try so hard to camouflage and be the big, la boss😁😁

Saying I love you…. Is like… Forever but we all know they do. Yes they do. Even when you are all grown up, they still see you as their baby even though they want you all grown up 😂😂😂😂

Don’t forget the goodwill whip 😂😂😂😂, man they shaped the lady in me. Yes,  it did. 

Also,  you are never too old to stay at home except you also make money and contribute, if not…. You become a 😂😂🤐🤐(you should know the word)

Our gift to them is become responsible beings. Love them. Hug them. Tell them “I love you”. Be responsible again. Grow your home better than they did..  

Maybe I did not get all the characteristics or rather write them out…. Go check funny african videos or jokes for that 😂😂😂😂

And all this applies to our good hardworking parents…. 

Am grateful for my African parents and would not trade them for any other. Hope you are too and we all become one too.. 

Maybe,  I may add more when I remember because its been months am away from them😭😭

From a future african mother and #fromamedicalstudentdfaraway

Those though 😂😂

CRITERIA OF BEING A CONDUCTOR

Now when I say conductor don’t rush to think it is music conductor or school conductor or..which one again sef. I think there are types of conductors even though it is never taught in social studies or civil education, wait civil education? Am grateful I was spared….

It is not easy to do any job oh, even washing plates and for the lazy ones to even remove their hands from their mouth after putting food inside is hard (chronic disease of laziness awaiting deliverance).

Ehen..let me continue, to be a bus conductor is not easy oh. Did my own observation (nobody send me oh) and noticed some things, let me list them and  you will see that it is not easy.

1. You must know money and maths (if not your oga will beat and pursue you).
2. You have good eyesight and hear well (if not they will cheat you).
3. You must know how to hang unto the bus even if it is with one hand (more people more money).
4. You must know places oh (if not..sha ..not too much consequences).
5. You must know how to fight or argue or talk smoothly (if you are megege even a yeye passenger will deal with you).
6. If you cannot do no 5 then you must know how to avoid any magana(talk) or maybe be friendly.
7. You must know how to handle your pocket (if not those passengers that enter bus to steal will steal your money and your story..not funny at all at the end of the day).
8. You must know how to run after the bus (I noticed the drivers love their conductor chasing the bus, cannot understand why).
9. You must know respect things oh (because if you no respect your driver, him no go recommend you for another person).
10. You must know how to drive (incase your oga no well or any incasities).

This may sound hilarious or silly but my reason for writing this, is to tell you that nobody finds it easy where they are. Don’t look down on anyone if they are working hard to earn their money the right way (at least I learnt that from the Bible and from my parents).

So wherever you are, please contribute your honest quota and try and appreciate others too. They may just be struggling to move on and your encouraging words may be the boost they needed.

Me in my corner will also try my best.

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