“You were already inside” I replied laughing notoriously as usual when I am inside my room 😂😂😂😂
N. B my friends or the humans around me know that laughter
I had been a bit rude to her earlier, and had quickly apologized. My reaction to a simple question was unnecessary, that was the reason for her squeezing her mouth at me 😂😂😂😂
I dont like offending. I dont like being the offender. It pricks my conscience too much. I always end up apologizing. It gives me peace of mind even when am right.
It is hard to accept that you have made a mistake because ego is like an empty coconut head. It is painful like chuking your leg on chukuchuku. (chukuchuku is thorn. Chuking is the action 🙄😏)
Apologizing when you think you are on the right side so as to make peace with the other party can feel foolish. N. B if you being on the right is for the legitimate cause that is not selfish but for the right of others. This may not apply. You were standing for truth.
Okay, last scenario is for those living in the same room and the other person claims you said something that hurt them, you can apologize. Or if they took your thing, and you insulted them or shouted on them as if they were dumb and stupid. Or if you were mean, trying to prove a point. Or if.. boola boola (whatever in Korean)
In a conflict, both parties cannot be right at the same time but both can be wrong. Admitting and apologizing is a sign of maturity.
It becomes abnormal when an offence is perpertuated purposely followed by an insincere apology. Am not talking about that kind of thing. That kind of.. Mtwww….. That is very toxic 😒😤
Sorry in ChenSongYi voice (My Love from Another Star 😂😂)
Ehen.. . Today..am hyper and I did not eat sugar. I am feeling nostalgic and maybe I will watch a movie that would make me cry 😭😭
This three word I AM SORRY can save plenty stress. Plenty elongation of issue. The tone you use too. Not saying it like sorry na, while your body language shows you are just saying it 🙄😒.
For those who mean it, say it and show it
For those hearing it, accept. Don’t do too much yanga or guy (that means shakara or pretending to still be offended. I dont know English equivalent😅😅)
Sorry…..it hurts like this nail
Let me leave you with these silly antonyms in Nigerian children play play language:
“Nto’o“
“Mmeh”
Opens eyes with fingers and stick out the tongue
That hurts like salt on worm 😂😂😂😂
Ouch!! 🤒
Let me come and be going…. .
I realize I infect people just like some infect me. And they dont even know that they have started carrying my traits 🐭🐭.
Poem 🐜
Pride goes before a fall, so does not admitting your faults
It piles like a stack of dirt
Till sorry cant do no more
Deal with the dirt one after another
Before they find another place to stack out.
The End 🐝
Okay,now real bye. Let me go and eat my susukainya. Hopefully contain my hyperactivity and nostalgia 🏃🏃
A SHORT STORY WITH MY VERSION OF KOREAN SUBTITLES AND…… my talk 😎
Her heart was beating fast even though she tried to put a bold appearance. She had finally decided to be bold, no more hiding again, no more keeping her thoughts and intentions to herself.
She had also tried not to overdress or appear different, just her normal self. The normal Chy, Chylie.
She had worn her favourite navy top, a navy blue top with elastic bands around the neck to shoulders which allowed her to be flexible with styling. She had decided to make it appear off-shoulder, sightly. Then she had worn her baggy jeans trousers that jumped at her ankle. Her hair was packed up with some hair which had been deliberately curled was allowed to be out of the bun, mainly on face. Her silver hoop earings, light pink lip gloss , shining face blended with colour combination of her satin scarf was tied round her her head.
She was waiting for Tay, waiting under the Sun, on purpose. She felt it would make her look more dazzling.
He had been told that she was looking for him. He had finished classes and wanted to rush home and watch the recently released episodes of Man on the Run. He saw her, she was dazzling. Actually she looked like someone who was getting ready for a circus show. The only thing he fancied were the pair of trainers on her feet, he had similar pair but black, hers were navy blue.
She looks beautiful
“Whatever, I hope she does not waste my time” he muttered as he walked towards her.
Be calm. Be calm. Be calm.
She chanted inside her mind as she noticed the human walking towards her. She looked at her bracelet-like wristwatch, pretending to check the time.
“Hi” he greeted.
“Hi. How was the class?” she asked.
“Boring as usual but I have no choice. I was told you wanted to meet up” he sounded like he was not in the mood for any talk
“Well, we cannot stand in the sun. Let us move to a more quiet place”
Her heart was faster than a sports car and she wondered why she had not yet broken her ankle from unseen tremors, actually she was already feeling cold in the hot weather.
She led him to the big tree that faced the Law department. The big tree that produced leaves for shade and no fruit to taste. It was the place to discuss private matters when no one was interested in enjoying cool shade.
Girl hurry up. She looks nervous. She smells nice too. I just want to munch on chicken and watch Running Man.
His thoughts were a mash up in his head.
He looked at his leather wristwatch. It was 2pm. He was not concentrating on her, he was looking at his sneakers, the white part had gotten stained and he wanted to wash them badly.
“Yes please” he said as politely as he could.
“Okay. First I want to say that for a long time I have noticed you and how you are serious and I really want us to study together”
“Okay. . ” he was nodding his head, his arms folded across his chest.
“And. … I like you” (Ana Chuwaye)
His phone rang as her last words left her mouth.
“Excuse me please” he picked the call and walked some distance from her to speak to the caller.
She composed herself, she had already set the ball rolling. She rolled the sliver bangle on her left hand, it was a twin of the watch but had her initials inscribed it. Her phone vibrated from multiple beeps, she suspected Opom her best friend.
He was already walking back, he was looking sideways like he was trying to avoid her gaze.
“I am sorry about the interruption. Please what where you saying?”
He had heard her clearly but he wanted to hear her repeat it. He was too shocked that he wanted to confirm what she had said. Chylie was not a new name, she had so many admirers among his peers and even his seniors. Not silly, neither a snub, she was in-between. He did not fancy her neither did he dislike her. She looked a bit uneasy, he was feeling weird but he still asked her: “What were you saying?”
“I like your voice” (Chuwaye your voice)
“Eh… ?” (Boh?)
“I said I like how you do your things and I want us to be closer. To be very good friends, I have only known you from afar”
She actually wanted to say: I like you very much. How you talk, walk, laugh, stand, scratch your maybe dirty hair. How you are a human being.
“Well… True… We know each other from afar. . .but.” he was scratching his head.
“Are you in a relationship?” she continued not knowing where the confidence to go on came from.
He stopped scratching his head and smiled. He put his hands in his pockets.
She noticed and wondered if he was going to be silly, that would really offend her.
“You want to know?”
That question suprised him even more. He did not have a girlfriend, man was not attracted to anyone yet. Well he would be honest to himself, there was a girl he liked but she had shun him so many times that he already lost interest, and that was two years ago.
He usually put his hands in his pockets when he wanted to hide his nervousness. Man! This girl was making him nervous.
She had answered that she did not want any complications to arise if they got as close as she wanted and he was thinking of what to ask her when she asked him another question.
“Can I have your number? It would be rude to ask it from someone else”
“”My number? Why?”
He was sounding a bit annoying now. Didn’t most guys rehearse these lines with so many girls? Why was he behaving like he came from the bush? Well she actually liked him more, he was still innocent.
“Okay, I will give mine. You can flash me now so I can get yours. I hope you are not offended”
“No I am not. I am only just.. .”
“Suprised?” Chyli completed the sentence.
“Well yes. It is the first time for me” his hands had went back to his head. Running Man was already playing.
She laughed “Well what men can do, women can do better. I better tell you how I feel than keep it in for long. Please can I still get your number? I will not bother you with calls or messages or unnecessary meetings even though I had already planned to do that”. A small smile had already formed, at the corner of her mouth till it spread to the whole of her mouth.
He had noticed the smile. Could he call it a shy smile or a sly smile? Right now thoughts were flying in his head. He really was not a disrespectful person and also he did not want to offend her. She had not been rude but then.. .He never expected her to be that brazen or could he call it confidence?
The girl he had liked before, Mexie. He had liked her for about 5years. He knew her since secondary school and picked up the courage two years ago to tell her. She had shattered his confidence in front of many people. He tried his best to avoid her as much as possible but now Chylie? He had never imagined.
Her voice brought his mind back
“Are you going to answer me? I am sorry if I took your time already but you said you did not have anything important doing” she asked noticing his uneasiness.
I have something important, Running Man!
“Well….I don’t and I am actually not offended”
“So? What is your response?”
Black and blue
Hoops and loops
Girl and shine
Boy and watch
Sliver and wrist
Two under a shade
Tay and Chylie
Chylie and Tay
Waiting for an answer
🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
MY TALK
First, my kinchanayo was not complete 😒😒
Second all the lines I rehearsed, Korean lines oh! I forgot 😤😒
I love Korean dramas so much and recently I checked some of their old movies, like really old ones and I appreciated the art and poetry feeling I got.
One of the things I really appreciate about their series is the sounds and music. I really like them a lot too 🙉🙈
But. . The truth about my personality is I never obsess. I may truely love something or someone but I never cross the line in my head. I have a boundary created already in my subconscious.
Another thing is that, when I love something or someone then that is stamped 🙂. This makes me watch my favourite series more than ten times with a new refreshing feeling, like I was watching it for the first time. I will still cry over the same lines (maybe even more), laugh over the same lines and get surprised and excited by the same lines 😁😁.
With sounds and music which I care for, the movies stick a new emotion in my heart and I always associate them with an event in my life, mostly the silent epic moments. So, I cannot part with these movies that have become special because they register moments in the archives of my memories.
Not only Korean series but other movies I have come to appreciate and cartoons and animations too 😊😊.
One of the things that made me appreciate Korean series was the sincerity in expressing emotions. The laughter, crying, anger and very small emotions are well expressed. Even their child actors do well in expressing their characters quite well.
Also, I felt they acted a little bit realistic stories. Stories that can happen to an extent.
But they have stereotype lines and characters 😂😂. Rich, neat, harsh male. Poor, dirty, silly females. Girls are the ones who express themselves first, guys pretend till after a long time before they agree that they have always liked the girl. Make up then break up then make up again 😂😂. Men cry openly in front of the girl 🙄🙃, like with snorts too 😂😂.
But again, I like how they still blend their stories and as a fan, I still enjoy them even though I only have series that were done two years ago and below 🙄🙄(dont have any recent ones yet. Enjoying my old ones over again)
Before I distract you with my interest for Korean series and my poorly subtitled story, let me move on to what I even wanted to say.
N. B. Been learning the language too. Don’t ask! Learning through movies 😏😏😆😆
Most of the times, the first to approach the other pair is the male. Even if the female likes the male first, she holds it in telling only her friends about her interest. Then, she waits for the male to reciprocate.
She tries to show him many ‘signs’of her interest and hopes he ‘gets’it. If he does not ‘get’ it, she swallows it in till she gets over him.
If she is too open about her feelings, she may seem too clingy and obvious and with time her name will not be registered well.
On the other hand, the males approach first and that is actually normal. He makes his intentions known and waits for the female to respond. If he is very interested, he can persist. He may be seen as a nuisance but then it is ‘normal’.
Every female has a feminist in her. That a truth I say as a female. It is either she agrees or tries to disagree, but she is within. The only difference? Limit. There is a limit for everyone.
Feminist propagandas made a lot of occupations possible for the female gender to do. It took years and years of sacrifice of lives, tears, sweat and blood for females to get some priviledges.
I am a a medical student and this would not have been possible some centuries ago. Even for those who were well gifted had to hide under the disguise of a pen name, a fake identity to do some of the things they loved to do because it was a ‘man’s job’
Over the years with more females getting more chances, the horizon is widening and more development are happening.
Like I said previously, there is a feminist in every female because humans all want to be treated right. The goal of feminism was to give a voice to the female gender but as time went on, the goals widened with certain females taking it a bit overboard. They created more branches of feminism that seemed to always antagonize the male gender thus giving the general term of feminism a really negative name.
I will share some of the types I found on net. You can go and get the wider explanation of each types.
Liberal feminism
Radical feminism
Conservative feminism
Libertarian feminism
Separatist feminism
Eco feminism
Some of them are the ones purely interested in fighting for educational and other well meaning rights women should have and some are concerned with negating the male gender
I knew of female genital mutilation years ago but only recently did I fully understand what it entailed and the information is really gruesome. The sole purpose is to curtail female sexual life leaving her with future complications. This is still practiced in certain parts of Africa and some the older generation still hold firmly to this belief disregarding the mortality rates it bears especially during pregnancy.
Then, as I was preparing for this topic I came across FOOT BINDING. Done in China years and years ago. You cannot even imagine 😳😳. Done mainly for sexual appeal and other reasons that did not make much sense.
Okay. .. Before you. ..
I forgot what I wanted to say
In African society, a woman letting her intentions known first is not common and not well accepted. Some may have tried it and I don’t know of anyone personally. Also, some males don’t mind and others may feel a little awkward about it 😂😂
Do not awaken love till it pleases
Songs of solomon 8:4
I am not in the party of Chylie. I tend to keep to myself, and as a Christian, pray instead about whatever interest I have in anyone.
I wanted to write more. ..
Ahan! This topic is fresh 🤒😣. It pushed a lot away to be here 😒
Anyways. …..We continue. .
If you are curious about Chylie, watch out 😉😎
And don’t dare ask about my kinchanayo 😏 and my well formed new names 😂😂
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