Not really, however I was expecting to complete my housejob, possibly write an exam, make certain travels, and start another program…
all I did
However, almost everyone one of these things dragged and tried to snuff me out.
I had to exercise patience for each of them and that meant months of waiting to do each one of them.
I had to relearn patience and the importance of knowing how to respond to difficult situations as well.
somethings will always have to be learnt
I CRIED ALOT
and crude (pun intended)
I had a good share of tears. I can easily shed tears because somewhere in my brain is sensitive to emotions a little bit more. Also, crying helps me relieve intense emotions; good or bad.
I had a lot of intense moments in 2023 and I had to cry out the heavy emotions that came with them.
therapeutic
In these moments, I allowed myself to feel the emotions I was going through, evaluate the experience I was going through and alllow my head to get cleared.
I cried in the last days of 2023 and I was like, this was not the plan.
I am glad I went through all the emotions because it gave me the opportunity to know myself better.
THINGS I WAS NOT ASHAMED OF IN 2023
Being sensitive and emotional: I am happy that I embraced that side of me more gently than I used to. It also helped me regulate better than previous times and I had less mood swings that were difficult to trigger-trace.
Being open about my feelings: still not very open like many people but I am glad I expressed certain cheesy emotions. (I’ll leave it at that).
Being told no: I got in different ways, got my feelings hurt but learnt through it… (I’ll leave it at that).
Being myself: I allowed myself to be and that was a highlight for me. I allowed myself to accept me better….
THINGS I LEARNT
Be big hearted if you are.
Be intentionally kind.
It’s okay to allow things to take a natural course.
Certain risks are worth it.
Trust God x infinity.
Your worries have potentials to be testimonies.
Don’t kill yourself, life is better.
Embrace your body and be kind to it.
You are loved more than you know (I had to accept this).
You choose to allow your ego to be crushed.
Your family is important (sometimes more than you think).
Things will pan out eventually.
You don’t have to impress anyone. Do the right thing, and the right people will be impressed.
Listen to the Holy Spirit (He’s more experienced in this thing called life).
Not everyone who loves you will be able to stay (bear no grudges).
Keep on loving (it is better).
Enjoy people…..
VISION BOARDS?
I have plans for this year but then most importantly I want to do better with my life.
I want to give more attention to very important areas of my life and that may mean taking long breaks from creating.
Am I excited?
maybe…
I want to go deeper into what being in existence means and I want it to be a personal, deep and rich experience for me.
Importantly, give God more room to be in control.
With that being said, even though I have tons of unrealized projects and topics I would love to share this year, I will take my time to share them.
I will give myself time to be
No rush, no urgency to start a series or new topics.
even though I have plenty of them
A PODCAST
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I gave some updates here..
YOUTUBE
I started a series in 2023 and will be continuing it this year.
If you haven’t seen it, see it. Subscribe too…
WHAT ELSE?
2024 has arrived and what is most important is that it achieves it purpose in our lives.
I need God more than ever.
2023 reminded me that
I’ll make use of my time and enjoy God’s blessings and learn my lessons.
If you are regular on my blog, you will know that this section is for initial ramblings before the main post.
I have written several posts with a similar theme to today’s post but this post is still unique.
As a content creator, I am sensitive about timings and creating contents that would pass the message I need to pass.
Therefore, in respect to the 14th of which I have seen many advertisements, this post is purposely direceted towards the theme of the 14th.
I am not a fan of the 14th but it is interesting to watch the usual reaction to it.
Lets slide in…..
Dm?
L.O.V.E
This word is one of the most versatile word. It is used to describe preference for both living and non-living things.
It is appreciated in different ways and is not limited by a particular understanding of it.
They say love makes the world go round
Love can be described as emotions and it can be appreciated as actions.
Love is interpreted differently by different people
Love is a main theme in the Bible
Remember: God is love (1John 4:16)
Love can be defined to suite personal preference.
Repeating myself
What is love to you?
Falling in love
This term is very popular in the social culture.
It has been used in books, movies, animations and songs.
Fall-in-love
What does it mean to fall in love?
Is love a ditch?
If you fall in love will you break your head or limbs?
Just asking. What bone breaks?
Falling in love is a process of discovering and acknowledging special feelings for an individual. These feelings are often times romantic and are directed towards having a specific romantic relationship.
And if they are not reciporcated then you find your way🙂
Do you want to fall in love?
Or have you fallen?
How to do it
Here is where I give you the way you fall in love.
I be no romance expert but these are my observations.
When I be meditating on this topic, there were many things I thought I would say before giving you the tips but now I refrain
1. Fall in love without doing anything
It is not your fault. It just happened. This is what they call love at first sight or love at later sight. In this category, the person catches your attention and you dont care about anything else.
Including redlights🌋
The person caught your heart and you be running with it.
This is the type they say is blind
2. Fall in love with a physical characteristics
I did not want to use characteristics but I did anyway.
This one is about being in love with:
Physique
Smile or laughter
Voice
Mannerisms
Charisma
Charm
Attitude to life
That aspect of the person sparks something in you that you have no courage to spark on your own. They make you realize that there is something you wish you have but then they have it and you like it so you like them because they have it.
You get?
The thing be that if you remain in love with them for these things, when they lose it, you lose the love as well.
Conditional eh?
3. Fall in love for fun
Teenage kind of love that often ends at the school gate after graduation.
Nothing much to say.
It often happens because of boredom or pressure.
4. Fall in love with intentions
This be very intentional.
Either because of:
Business
Career goals
Ideal family type
Societal status
You find them who be common ground and fit your criteria for your personal goals and you fall in love.
Interest is the key word
5. Fall in love because it is God’s will for you
Now this is the crux.
And yes..this be real.
Falling in love with a person because you know that God wants you to be with them is another way to fall in love.
The only category that will not be here is 3. You can see elements of other categories here.
Falling in love this way means you do not share your heart anyhow but you intentionally share it with the perosn God has allowed you to.
Falling safe
How to know God’s will
Through prayers, peace and confirmations.
God confirms His words
Knowing God’s will is necessary for daily life and the way we know God’s will in mudane issue is the way we know God’s will in serious issues.
This is another topic for another day (I mentioned that in the last post)
However, if you haven’t checked the last post, I will recommend you to do so as I shared links that will help you answer this part.
Falling in love is not something we are completely unable to control. It is true that we may have a quick click with someone for little reasons but we have the ability to control how we respond to these emotions.
If the person we fall in love with is harmful to our lives or disregards core values we uphold then we can and should let go. We dont insist to remain because we are in ‘love’
Love is not foolish
Love is not blind.
Love can be given from a distance.
When we do not tie our emotional stability to a human being, we are able to make clear decisions even when it is tough. The problem is that some of us are emotionally dependent and this in turn affects our expression and response to love.
To be emotionally attached when it is not in the appropriate context only spirals to heartaches and if handled poorly, leads to heart scars.
As we trust God for other things, our emotional life should be entrusted to God as well.
Psalms 139:1-4 O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me.
Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether. (KJV)
If God knows us perfectly, then He can handle our emotional life perfectly.
Accompainments
To The Heartbreaks That Never Happened is intentionally directed towards dealing with emotional attachments, disappointments and aches. It has been revised with new sections.
There is a Podcast which is an audio version of this post and it contains extras not contained in this post.
Your questions, comments and responses are welcomed in the comment section.
I meant that 6 months ago, I gained a year to my age.
Today has been a roller coaster…
Regardless of that, let’s dive in as usual…
Weakness
Weakness is the description of a flaw.
An area of your personality that is not strong.
That has a lot of holes. A single punch and the leak is exposed…..
One of my weakness which I have repeated multiple times on blog is my swinging mood.
It is like pendulum and sometimes it swings too fast. My innate ability to observe small details and focus on them can sometimes be a blessing and other times a trouble.
Interestingly small gestures and actions mean more to me
Small things give me an insight into big things.
And because of this beautiful swinging moments I accept that I sometimes make people uncomfortable when the swing is towards a poor mood.
Not intentional
I wish that most of the times, they would understand that it was not necessarily them but I was trying to process certain influx and moments within.
Because of these moments, I have had times when people asked me what was wrong with me, why was I angry, why was I extremely quiet, why was I not smiling (add all the question marks yourself)
I would confess that some of those times, I wanted to be alone but I couldn’t help it because I needed to be out
In summary, whenever I am moody, I prefer to be alone before contacting others lest I also ruin their mood.
However, it is the real life where I have to cope with mood swings and doing things.
But my mood swings have not been totally negative. They have been a source of arts and creativity. I have created so many things in moments I was moody.
Many of them have been shared in this blog. Many…
Also, God has been kind to me by using random people to encourage me and also by touching the hearts of those around me.
As I learn to interact more and express myself (this area of my life), others have been considerate of me and I appreciate.
They do so by leaving me alone and not pushing me away when I come back to engage with them.
More like ignoring me when I needed the space.
One question I asked myself today was:
Why was I not getting over it?
Why was I too observant of details that others could ignore?
Why did they bother me?
Why was my cheerful and ‘sweet’ side not always evident?
And then I realized that getting over certain flaws take time and sometimes some of those may never disappear, they remain as a reminder of how imperfect the human nature is and hence when I am tempted to feel better than another person, my flaw is a check on me.
Do we need flaws to treat others better?
No.
But because it is a reality, it is better to accept the presence of flaws first than to deny them.
Also, there are certain flaws God may not take away.
I still pray about my swings. Every day.
This reminds me of Paul’s words in
2 Corinthians 12:6-8. If I wanted to boast, I would not be a fool, because I would be telling the truth. But I will not boast, because I do not want any of you to have a higher opinion of me than you have as a result of what you have seen me do and heard me say.
But to keep me from being puffed up with pride because of the many wonderful things I saw, I was given a painful physical ailment, which acts as Satan's messenger to beat me and keep me from being proud.Three times I prayed to the Lord about this and asked Him to take it away (GNT)
Then it is followed by
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.(KJV)
Are all flaws permissble?
The honest truth is that there are certain flaws that are not permissble. They go completely against what the word of God stands for. Participating in such activities intentionally is the same as intentional disobedience.
No defence
Asking God for forgiveness is the main step to take but continous participation is an outright disregard towards God.
Especially when a willful participation occurs and repentance occurs only when there is a public exposure
A simple summary is that certain flaws are loop holes to remain in sin which is far away from God’s desire for us.
Deciding to keep choosing sin is to disregard God.
N. B I would like your interpretation of the poem in the comment section.
As an introvert and HSP, space is too fundamental to get myself together. I crave for space because it allows me to refresh and think.
Intrusion from outside bad
I mostly love to have enough time and space to air my thoughts in order to process the multiple motions going inside my mind.
(If you read the last post, you would understand).
Sometimes, space is more important to me that conversing with others because for me to converse with others, I need to be in the right place myself.
You get?
Therefore, sometimes I prefer to stay away from others but unfortunately I cannot avoid or prevent others from coming to me and sometimes that can ruin the whole purpose of me seeking isolation.
You get?
A Hub for creativity
As much as some of these may not be a favourite because of the whirling and swirling emotions, they have also been times of reflections and creativity.
I often make unique things during these moments because I pour my emotion and concentration into what I am creating.
More like a getaway
And because of how precious these moments are, most of what I come up with cannot be recreated. They instead serve as flashback or statements of recovery.
I have been ticking off old posts but today, a new one appeared called today’s topic.
I wonder how you did feel? How you feel when you can let the air you hold within out.
Therapy…..
Some days it is music🎶
Some days it is singing 🎤
Some days it is writing fiction 📝
Some days it is writing poetry✏
Some days it is just writing📠
Some days it is reading📖
Some days it is watching cat videos🐈
Some days it is laughing (even though it turns around to sting)😂
Some days it is cooking something too new🍽 or eating (depends on brain directives)
Some days it is painting abstract (or maybe call it rubbish)🎨
Some days it is dancing💃
Some days it is crying😭
Some days it is talking to a loved one or some one I like ( usually rare but mostly mama does the trick❤)🗣
Some days it is auto talking🤖
Some days it is walking🚶
Some days it is fresh air (just say nature)🌫
Some days it is the fruit/vegetable man who add extra fruits ( I am a regular/everyday customer)🍎🍌🍊🍋
Some days it is swatting flies (no emoji (like…🙄🙄))
Sometimes it is praying (actually most times. Only that I may run away because I want to dwell on the mood, on the low mood🙃) 🙏
Sometimes, I use all……🕊
Therapy can be anything.
Comfort in unlikely places
Comfort can sometimes be found in unlikely places. O. R. A
Sometimes you feel better, sometimes you don’t In every moment I pratice counting my blessings.
They keep me in gratitude.
God sends people (cute and kind ones) even the most unlikely to bring comfort (very soothing)
My mother would say: “Onyiyechi what are you thinking of? You don’t have children and you are thinking and thinking. Take it easy” 😂😂😂😂
This would be in response to my response which would have been I was thinking. That was when I was a pre teen or teen…..(wot-eva)
N.B Thinking in the theme is not thinking like a human/ or a normal pattern of thinking like a rational human. It was thinking like a person who who was going to transport the eatrth to another galaxy (I wonder if that made sense. Wot-eva again)
It is steps…..it takes it time but that does not mean it should stop. Time still has time before it stops……
A therapist is a good idea especially if you have not gone mad already. Better late than never.
N.B listening to Hollyn : Isaac ( Try listening to Horizon too by the same singer. So beautiful songs and voice😚. I told ya). On repeat like xjdjoeeivs times…
Something new🙂
There is a poll at the end of today’s post. Pick your favourites.
I am doing more experiments….😆😁
I hope you felt sunshine today, if not outside,inside. If outside, I hope you felt it inside too…..
If I repeat this word N…..gia, it would sound too weird. Seeing I have used it too frequently in previous posts….
They stood akwardly, the world around them moving in normal motions.
Chylie palms were stained with sweats.
Was this how guys felt?
He was supposed to say something not look distracted. She was ready to bear her shame and majestically walk away.
It was her first time, she did not want to be the one approached again, not now that she was the first doing the liking. Maybe, he was her true crush. She had never told anyone that she had never had a crush, they would tease her. She just went with the flow and agreed as they spoke since she was the queen of the block. The queen of beauties who was also nice and sweet (as they said).
Sometimes she wished she were a boy. Not a girl who had many rules made to organise her life, she usually rolled her eyes in disgust when she thought of that.
“I am sorry, am I making you uncomfortable? You have not yet replied” she said as calmly as she could, hoping that would make him feel at least interested to replying.
He was so nervous, he felt like peeing. Not in front of her though. Why was she talking like that?
He never really carerd about being noticed or liked. He just knew he like someone before, then stopped, then lost interest in the whole thing. He had actually come to enjoy his space, not looking out for any princess on a unicorn.
He almost felt like no female would interest him again, maybe he would just buy a dog and be his papa for life. When he told his friends this, they laughed and mocked him. They told him he was crazy, and he became like this just because one girl told him no.
Maybe they were right, he was too passionate and put his emotions before his head. Maybe, he was actually afraid to like somebody, he was afraid to have heart races and merry-go-round cycling in his brain. He wanted to master his emotions, and the best way was to shut them up. He could try and still save a dying cat.
Maybe that cat stood in front of him..
What was he going to answer her?
Please leave me alone. Please!!
She could not hear that
Opom had asked her why Tay, of all awkward people to like. Why Tay?!
She had only smiled. There was no specific reason.
She just liked him.
He was cute and…….
Maybe he reeked of rejection. Like an abandoned teddy. She wanted to sun dry him and become the Sun that made him smile.
After much pestering, her best friend knew to leave her alone. Chylie did what she wanted to do.
He looked like he wanted to finally speak.
Hurry up bro, let me know what it feels like to get rejected.
She looked too patient, and that unsettled him. Was she that into him? He just rememberd that he had not shaved his scattered face in a week. He was not that careless, he was only careless this week.
She can hate if she want, I was not looking for love
“First, thank you. Second, no. I am not in the place for any of what you are asking for. I am still a bear hibernating”
He noticed that her countenance fell, he could do nothing about that. He had already missed The Running Man, the Pringles he bought was going to waste.
“It’s okay” she lied
“But you thought of that now. Don’t you want to think about it? Or at least give me your number”
She felt like a beggar. Did she like him that much to be shameless? With his scattered cute face
He had few contacts, he was content with that. Only his landlady was the female contact.
“Ummm.. Am sorry. I cannot do that either”
He was already tired. If he had known, he would have bought a bottle of Sprite and eat it with the Pringles. Maybe share some of it with her.
No again?
She wasted her highlighter. She was disappointed, not because of the highlighter but because he had said no twice.
It stung. She wanted to faint from embarrassment.
The Sprite in her bag was already warm. If he had Pringles they could share.
He sat down and opened his bag to reveal the Original flavour of Pringles. They could eat it as their parting meal.
“Do you mind sharing?”
“No. I have Sprite. We could share”
She sat down beside him on the pavement that the tree had destroyed with its stem.
They could eat it as their parting meal, and she could use the chips to choke down the tears in her eyes.
After their meal, they smiled and parted
Pringles and Sprite
No and sighs
Rejection, it hurts
But don’t take it too far
A parting meal is not bad
It was refreshing to experience it. Now she could be more considerate, she had always been. Maybe more considerate. She still liked him and hoped he came to like her before she lost interest.
At least he could not stop her from stalking his social media handles that he rarely posted on. Or he could not stop her from. .. .thinking about him.
It was refreshing to know how it felt to really like someone.
She brushed the stubborn tears that threatened to fall as her sneakers carried her fast to her room where she could explode better
He respected her courage but felt relieved to be finally left alone. All he thought of was to get the recap of The Running Man.
He would check if she had sent him friend requests and accept then, that would show her he had no hard feelings.
Maybe, next time he would be interested.
“Lets go wash our shoes” he said as he made for his motor bike.
The Sun was lazily setting down as both went in opposite directions
Sad Teddy
I dont like when people make too much out of rejection. Before I am misunderstood, some scenarios have been really bad but let us talk about a normal scenario.
If you told someone your interest and they said No. Why dont you accept no? Why think you could try and try and try and try and try and try and emek egg dkekk
Okay. . …
Let me move on.. .. .
If you were with someone and after a while, they said no. You tried to know why and they still said no. You tried to make adjustment and they still said no. Why do jausskkwojebdksksm.?
Let me move on.
You applied for something and they said No. You tried again and they said no. Why do you ajishdsso?
Forgive me 🦄
Let me move on
Rejection is for your good, and it is not always because you deserve better. It could be because what you were wanting was not for you, it was for someone else. 🐵
Rejection is an eye opener to develop yourself, it is not always because you were hated or you were too good to be true. It could be what you wanted was too good for you. 🐡
Rejection will happen because it is part of existing. It will happen to everyone. So dont think you are special because it happened to you or maybe happening to you. 🦃
Rejection does not mean you may turn out better or the ones who rejected you will regret.🐽
Rejection is a pill that can leave you better or bitter. Depends on which side you decided to swallow. 🕷
The notion I am tired tired of hearing is people insinuating that those who did the rejection were so horrible without most times knowing which scenario was which. Everyone cannot be chosen at the same time, if not what would be the use of timing and employment. 🌐
Sometimes you are rejected because you are loved. The person doing the rejecting may actually truely love you, and knows that what you are seeking is not what you need. It could be that you need to work on yourself and the love you seek is not where you are searching. You need to take more steps. 👡👞👟👠
So please dont be bitter when you are rejected. Don’t hold a grudge that was not necessary. Few people will believe in your dreams (that is well known). Dont plan to revenge (it may be unnecessary)
Search and check what you could do better. Someone, others are waiting for you out there. You stopped at the wrong station, you have to move on to the next 🚇🚂🚃🚆🚅🚄🚈🚎🚊🚋🚌
N. B To the one doing the rejecting, it takes nothing to be nice. Let the rejection be remembered with a smile that showed your kindest affection. Whether single or cooperate, it could be you. Dont feel guilty if you have to reject, sometimes you just have to but let your words spark more hope than utter rejection. 🏭🏀
Yellow Teddy
STORY OF THE BEAR
I took this picture a month ago,and the bear is not mine. I dont fancy teddy bears. It looked so lonely drying under the hot Sun. The owner had washed it. I took it because I loved how it looked not knowing I was going to write a post titled REJECTION.
After getting the topic, I realized that this teddy would fit in the description😊😊. So teddy made its way here.
I actually have one mini, tini teddy that is cute to squeeze in my palm but I left it tucked away, far away from me. I dont have it near, and I still dont fancy teddies. Mostly big ones 😂😂🐻🐻
I almost forgot that I had not posted in a week. It is almost two weeks. This is what happens when you jusggle living in two planets 😂😂👽👽.
Please dont forget to like, comment, share and follow my space. No specific date for posting.. ..
Let me leave this verse here
He has made everything beautiful in it’s time. ..
Ecclesiastes 3:11 (paraphrased)
Thank you.. ….💃💃
Okay. … .. I have also gotten rejected many times. Also done the rejecting. All have been inspirations
A SHORT STORY WITH MY VERSION OF KOREAN SUBTITLES AND…… my talk 😎
Her heart was beating fast even though she tried to put a bold appearance. She had finally decided to be bold, no more hiding again, no more keeping her thoughts and intentions to herself.
She had also tried not to overdress or appear different, just her normal self. The normal Chy, Chylie.
She had worn her favourite navy top, a navy blue top with elastic bands around the neck to shoulders which allowed her to be flexible with styling. She had decided to make it appear off-shoulder, sightly. Then she had worn her baggy jeans trousers that jumped at her ankle. Her hair was packed up with some hair which had been deliberately curled was allowed to be out of the bun, mainly on face. Her silver hoop earings, light pink lip gloss , shining face blended with colour combination of her satin scarf was tied round her her head.
She was waiting for Tay, waiting under the Sun, on purpose. She felt it would make her look more dazzling.
He had been told that she was looking for him. He had finished classes and wanted to rush home and watch the recently released episodes of Man on the Run. He saw her, she was dazzling. Actually she looked like someone who was getting ready for a circus show. The only thing he fancied were the pair of trainers on her feet, he had similar pair but black, hers were navy blue.
She looks beautiful
“Whatever, I hope she does not waste my time” he muttered as he walked towards her.
Be calm. Be calm. Be calm.
She chanted inside her mind as she noticed the human walking towards her. She looked at her bracelet-like wristwatch, pretending to check the time.
“Hi” he greeted.
“Hi. How was the class?” she asked.
“Boring as usual but I have no choice. I was told you wanted to meet up” he sounded like he was not in the mood for any talk
“Well, we cannot stand in the sun. Let us move to a more quiet place”
Her heart was faster than a sports car and she wondered why she had not yet broken her ankle from unseen tremors, actually she was already feeling cold in the hot weather.
She led him to the big tree that faced the Law department. The big tree that produced leaves for shade and no fruit to taste. It was the place to discuss private matters when no one was interested in enjoying cool shade.
Girl hurry up. She looks nervous. She smells nice too. I just want to munch on chicken and watch Running Man.
His thoughts were a mash up in his head.
He looked at his leather wristwatch. It was 2pm. He was not concentrating on her, he was looking at his sneakers, the white part had gotten stained and he wanted to wash them badly.
“Yes please” he said as politely as he could.
“Okay. First I want to say that for a long time I have noticed you and how you are serious and I really want us to study together”
“Okay. . ” he was nodding his head, his arms folded across his chest.
“And. … I like you” (Ana Chuwaye)
His phone rang as her last words left her mouth.
“Excuse me please” he picked the call and walked some distance from her to speak to the caller.
She composed herself, she had already set the ball rolling. She rolled the sliver bangle on her left hand, it was a twin of the watch but had her initials inscribed it. Her phone vibrated from multiple beeps, she suspected Opom her best friend.
He was already walking back, he was looking sideways like he was trying to avoid her gaze.
“I am sorry about the interruption. Please what where you saying?”
He had heard her clearly but he wanted to hear her repeat it. He was too shocked that he wanted to confirm what she had said. Chylie was not a new name, she had so many admirers among his peers and even his seniors. Not silly, neither a snub, she was in-between. He did not fancy her neither did he dislike her. She looked a bit uneasy, he was feeling weird but he still asked her: “What were you saying?”
“I like your voice” (Chuwaye your voice)
“Eh… ?” (Boh?)
“I said I like how you do your things and I want us to be closer. To be very good friends, I have only known you from afar”
She actually wanted to say: I like you very much. How you talk, walk, laugh, stand, scratch your maybe dirty hair. How you are a human being.
“Well… True… We know each other from afar. . .but.” he was scratching his head.
“Are you in a relationship?” she continued not knowing where the confidence to go on came from.
He stopped scratching his head and smiled. He put his hands in his pockets.
She noticed and wondered if he was going to be silly, that would really offend her.
“You want to know?”
That question suprised him even more. He did not have a girlfriend, man was not attracted to anyone yet. Well he would be honest to himself, there was a girl he liked but she had shun him so many times that he already lost interest, and that was two years ago.
He usually put his hands in his pockets when he wanted to hide his nervousness. Man! This girl was making him nervous.
She had answered that she did not want any complications to arise if they got as close as she wanted and he was thinking of what to ask her when she asked him another question.
“Can I have your number? It would be rude to ask it from someone else”
“”My number? Why?”
He was sounding a bit annoying now. Didn’t most guys rehearse these lines with so many girls? Why was he behaving like he came from the bush? Well she actually liked him more, he was still innocent.
“Okay, I will give mine. You can flash me now so I can get yours. I hope you are not offended”
“No I am not. I am only just.. .”
“Suprised?” Chyli completed the sentence.
“Well yes. It is the first time for me” his hands had went back to his head. Running Man was already playing.
She laughed “Well what men can do, women can do better. I better tell you how I feel than keep it in for long. Please can I still get your number? I will not bother you with calls or messages or unnecessary meetings even though I had already planned to do that”. A small smile had already formed, at the corner of her mouth till it spread to the whole of her mouth.
He had noticed the smile. Could he call it a shy smile or a sly smile? Right now thoughts were flying in his head. He really was not a disrespectful person and also he did not want to offend her. She had not been rude but then.. .He never expected her to be that brazen or could he call it confidence?
The girl he had liked before, Mexie. He had liked her for about 5years. He knew her since secondary school and picked up the courage two years ago to tell her. She had shattered his confidence in front of many people. He tried his best to avoid her as much as possible but now Chylie? He had never imagined.
Her voice brought his mind back
“Are you going to answer me? I am sorry if I took your time already but you said you did not have anything important doing” she asked noticing his uneasiness.
I have something important, Running Man!
“Well….I don’t and I am actually not offended”
“So? What is your response?”
Black and blue
Hoops and loops
Girl and shine
Boy and watch
Sliver and wrist
Two under a shade
Tay and Chylie
Chylie and Tay
Waiting for an answer
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MY TALK
First, my kinchanayo was not complete 😒😒
Second all the lines I rehearsed, Korean lines oh! I forgot 😤😒
I love Korean dramas so much and recently I checked some of their old movies, like really old ones and I appreciated the art and poetry feeling I got.
One of the things I really appreciate about their series is the sounds and music. I really like them a lot too 🙉🙈
But. . The truth about my personality is I never obsess. I may truely love something or someone but I never cross the line in my head. I have a boundary created already in my subconscious.
Another thing is that, when I love something or someone then that is stamped 🙂. This makes me watch my favourite series more than ten times with a new refreshing feeling, like I was watching it for the first time. I will still cry over the same lines (maybe even more), laugh over the same lines and get surprised and excited by the same lines 😁😁.
With sounds and music which I care for, the movies stick a new emotion in my heart and I always associate them with an event in my life, mostly the silent epic moments. So, I cannot part with these movies that have become special because they register moments in the archives of my memories.
Not only Korean series but other movies I have come to appreciate and cartoons and animations too 😊😊.
One of the things that made me appreciate Korean series was the sincerity in expressing emotions. The laughter, crying, anger and very small emotions are well expressed. Even their child actors do well in expressing their characters quite well.
Also, I felt they acted a little bit realistic stories. Stories that can happen to an extent.
But they have stereotype lines and characters 😂😂. Rich, neat, harsh male. Poor, dirty, silly females. Girls are the ones who express themselves first, guys pretend till after a long time before they agree that they have always liked the girl. Make up then break up then make up again 😂😂. Men cry openly in front of the girl 🙄🙃, like with snorts too 😂😂.
But again, I like how they still blend their stories and as a fan, I still enjoy them even though I only have series that were done two years ago and below 🙄🙄(dont have any recent ones yet. Enjoying my old ones over again)
Before I distract you with my interest for Korean series and my poorly subtitled story, let me move on to what I even wanted to say.
N. B. Been learning the language too. Don’t ask! Learning through movies 😏😏😆😆
Most of the times, the first to approach the other pair is the male. Even if the female likes the male first, she holds it in telling only her friends about her interest. Then, she waits for the male to reciprocate.
She tries to show him many ‘signs’of her interest and hopes he ‘gets’it. If he does not ‘get’ it, she swallows it in till she gets over him.
If she is too open about her feelings, she may seem too clingy and obvious and with time her name will not be registered well.
On the other hand, the males approach first and that is actually normal. He makes his intentions known and waits for the female to respond. If he is very interested, he can persist. He may be seen as a nuisance but then it is ‘normal’.
Every female has a feminist in her. That a truth I say as a female. It is either she agrees or tries to disagree, but she is within. The only difference? Limit. There is a limit for everyone.
Feminist propagandas made a lot of occupations possible for the female gender to do. It took years and years of sacrifice of lives, tears, sweat and blood for females to get some priviledges.
I am a a medical student and this would not have been possible some centuries ago. Even for those who were well gifted had to hide under the disguise of a pen name, a fake identity to do some of the things they loved to do because it was a ‘man’s job’
Over the years with more females getting more chances, the horizon is widening and more development are happening.
Like I said previously, there is a feminist in every female because humans all want to be treated right. The goal of feminism was to give a voice to the female gender but as time went on, the goals widened with certain females taking it a bit overboard. They created more branches of feminism that seemed to always antagonize the male gender thus giving the general term of feminism a really negative name.
I will share some of the types I found on net. You can go and get the wider explanation of each types.
Liberal feminism
Radical feminism
Conservative feminism
Libertarian feminism
Separatist feminism
Eco feminism
Some of them are the ones purely interested in fighting for educational and other well meaning rights women should have and some are concerned with negating the male gender
I knew of female genital mutilation years ago but only recently did I fully understand what it entailed and the information is really gruesome. The sole purpose is to curtail female sexual life leaving her with future complications. This is still practiced in certain parts of Africa and some the older generation still hold firmly to this belief disregarding the mortality rates it bears especially during pregnancy.
Then, as I was preparing for this topic I came across FOOT BINDING. Done in China years and years ago. You cannot even imagine 😳😳. Done mainly for sexual appeal and other reasons that did not make much sense.
Okay. .. Before you. ..
I forgot what I wanted to say
In African society, a woman letting her intentions known first is not common and not well accepted. Some may have tried it and I don’t know of anyone personally. Also, some males don’t mind and others may feel a little awkward about it 😂😂
Do not awaken love till it pleases
Songs of solomon 8:4
I am not in the party of Chylie. I tend to keep to myself, and as a Christian, pray instead about whatever interest I have in anyone.
I wanted to write more. ..
Ahan! This topic is fresh 🤒😣. It pushed a lot away to be here 😒
Anyways. …..We continue. .
If you are curious about Chylie, watch out 😉😎
And don’t dare ask about my kinchanayo 😏 and my well formed new names 😂😂
“Don’t provoke me to anger. Don’t provoke me to anger” he squeezed his face and hands as his feet tapped to his weird song I think he composed.
I described a scene from one of the music or talent auditions where amazing people show talents they don’t have, and family members dont stop them from going.
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Chickens…….
How do you deal with offences?
How do you respond?
How do you react?
How do you cope?
There are things we cannot avoid as existing humans, and one of them is: Getting offended
Somebody will step on your toes but the most important part is how you react and handle these situations when you are confronted with them.
So the questions lies in: What kind of offences are even the important ones? Or… .What kind of offences can we ignore?
I will not give specifics because… We are all different and have different principles that organize our lives.
But
I will say that; the offences which really have nothing to do with harming us, offences that we can shut our ears too. You know them…
Okay, let me give example 🙄🙄
If someone calls you big head, you can decide to ignore especially if you dont have big head 😂😂
If someone stepped on your real toes, you can ignore. He or she will remove their shoes 😂😂
If someone insulted you, you dont have to insult back 😁😁
If. . . .. 😆😆
Truth be told there are issues which can just letthesleeping dog lie.
These issues will not produce any fruitful results when you decide to dwell om them.
The questions you need ask yourself are:
What will I gain from doing this?
What change am I expecting?
What impact will it make?
Will my response have an effect on the other person? Like will it help them?
Will I even get relieved from my annoyance or will it escalate?
Will? What?
Whatever.. .you want to add. .🐜🐜
There are certain situations you will need to confront people on and even in those situations you dont have to spit out your opinions anyhow. Dont spit like Llamas😒😒. I mean you dont have to be abusive or insulting, you will still not pass your message across.
It is best you pick your words and the most suitable ones for that situations and intelligently trash it out. Intelligent words will stick when you are confronting another for a wrong doing🙂
Dont express yourself when you are extremely angry. It is best you do it when you feel more comported, you will pass your message better.
You can close your(I wanted to say ya) eye and walk(waka) past 🚶🚶🚶🚶
In the book of Proverbs 17:28, it says “A fool, when he holds his mouth is considered wise. ..”(Paraphrased). There are so many passages talking on that in this book. I find this very funny 😂😂. You got(gat) to hold your mouth. Your opinion must not be spilled all the time especially when you are angry! 🙃🙃
Dont store offences and dont go looking for one. Save yourself unnecessary stress.
Stress can cause peptic ulcer 🙃🙃 and compromise your health too. If you are always on the edge looking for who will offend you, you are putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation for nothing.
Just know that people will offend you. You cannot avoid it but you can always deal with your response 💁
Maturity comes at a price. ..
And handling offences is one of them.
if you have a bad temper, anger issues, please see a doctor. Deal with it. Go for therapy. Go for a dance class. Go gyming. Go do charity. Go wash toilet…. .
Direct your excess emotions to creativity, to productivity. Make the world better🌫
Especially before you involve someone else in your life, deal with these issues very well.
I have met certain humans who have and tried and tested my patience. N. B I did not always win
I have met humans who had great control over their emotions. N. B they taught me so much 😊
We need more rational people, more matured people. Can you be one of them?
Finally: I listened to Lauvie Ajayi on Ted Talk on Youtube and she sparked me more 💞. Stand for the right, they may not like you but they will respect you.. .
Me in my corner, climbing the steps gradually 📈💪💪
I did a podcast on this topic, I said somethings I did not say here and plus music too 😁😁. Don’t Offend Me
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