Preamble
I will not lie, this post was triggered 😂😂
However, it is one I have battled with for a very long time. I will mention why in the remaining part of this post.
CAVEWOMAN series has started. Started yesterday and will be updated tommorrow.
Don’t forget 🙃
Nice Nice
I have mentioned continously that my personality has played a big role in my decisions. I mentioned elaborately in Cavewoman the first part.
My tendency of being extremely cautious has also made me too careful to avoid being the bad guy.
Did my cautioness work?
No 😂😂
My deeper interest in doing the right thing, being principled and insisting that it must be done as long I am involved in the matter has not made me a good guy.
It does not matter how nicely I try to put it or how my mannerisms were, the involved person will still take offence.
Sari
Sometimes, I get the table turned on me. It doesn’t matter how the situation erupted it somehow becomes my fault because of the tone of my voice or because of my eyelashes blinked or because of….
With these repeated occurrences, I felt pressured to remain nice
I did not want to cause offence
I wanted to remain loveable
Did it work?
No 😂😂
As a Christian
I am continuously taught by the scriptures to love, to treat others right, to be careful of my words and actions, to be consistent in God’s love to others.
But does it mean I would always be nice?
🤔🤔
As I keep evolving, I realize that I may have taken what I was learning out of context and because it consistently poked me to act in a way that appeared perfect, I often experienced conflicts within.
To love others may sometimes appear offensive to them.
Loving others may mean confronting them. It may mean being insistent on doing the right thing. It may mean………
Love is not always rosy
I am learning that craving for other people’s opinions about my character. Hoping to hear them say how nice I am is equal to stifling myself from being sincere with myself and God’s work in my life.
I am learning that I should not try to be nice, I should be nice.
I did not define nice. check it yourself
When I think about being nice, this verse comes to mind
Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
I want to live at peace with people but some people may not want to live at peace with me and they may do this passively or aggressively and in some of these times, being nice may not be the solution.
Being able to balance living right and being nice is important to remaining sincere with ourselves, others and with God.
Yes, God
I am also learning that I do not need to make people to love me. I should focus on growing in areas I am weak.
God’s love is enough
Before it seems I am being unrealistic, I still appreciate sincere love but the truth is that sometimes craving for love from others can become an obession.
People pleaser sickness
More lessons
Understanding that all my good actions may not equal immediate rewards is helping me do good without too much expectations.
If my reason for being a good person is to please God, then I should be satisfied with this resolution.
If I am sincere in my actions and my heart is pure before God, then He would vindicate me at the right them. Especially when I have been misunderstood and labelled wrongly.
It takes time but it would be revealed
Therefore I do not need to force any emotion but trust God to help me to live as a true Christian as I am consistent in obeying His words and guidance.
Amen.
The lessons never end.
Note: To understand the tone of this post, read the previous post. thank you.
Are you nice?
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