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When You Feel Used 🚮

Preamble

Hello!

Welcome to another post here.

In today’s post, I am featuring two persons.

This is the first post in the history of this blog to feature another person aside myself 😂😂.

I had my imaginations on how I wanted to present this post but I am still grateful for the opportunity to still create it.

I hope you are blessed and encouraged as you read.

I appreciate my two guests for agreeing to participate and even share their pictures 😌🤗.

Let’s dive in 🏄

First Guest

Our first feature is one I love dearly and one with whom some of the podcasts I have shared on RoseCast were discussed with.

Before, I say more, let me give space to she.

Ezi

Me: Please can you introduce yourself?

Ezi: My name is Agwu Ezinwanne Mary aka ezilovely.

Me: Can you describe yourself in 4 words?

Ezi: I’m a jovial and friendly person, principled, lover of the church and Christ Jesus.

Me: Can you briefly explain what it means to feel used?

Ezi: It means to be taken for granted and taken advantaged of without any sincere interest in the person as an individual. It involves taking advntage of a person’s weakness, sincerity, good heart or friendship for the sake of a selfish goal. (paraphrased)

Me: I will share you questions which you will answer.

Ezi: Okay.

Questions
  1. Have you ever felt used before?
  2. How did you realize it?
  3. How did you respond at first?
  4. How did it affect you?
  5. Did you learn any lesson from the experience?
  6. What different thing will you do if you find yourself in a similar situation?
  7. Do you think God allows some of these situations or we are the ones responsible for them happening?
  8. Is it any way appropriate to use someone for personal interest even if the person does not protest?
  9. What advice will you give to anyone who feels used?
  10. What words will you share with those who use others?
Answer

1) Yes

2) After I’ve been used.

3) Shocked, sad.

4) Affected my self esteem.

5) Yes❗

6) Quickly address the issue and pull out.

7) Could be both ways. God allowed the people of Israel to have their way with Jesus, also in the case of Hosea. But being God who can turn around every situation at the end nothing spoils, just lessons learnt and God’s name glorified.

8) It is not appropriate. People are not meant to be used.

9) Learn form this experience, build yourself up, learn not to be too sentimental, learn to say NO, learn to walk way, know your worth. Read Psalms 142:4-7

Psalms 142:4-7 I looked on my right hand, and beheld, but there was no man that would know me: refuge failed me; no man cared for my soul.
I cried unto thee, O LORD: I said, Thou art my refuge and my portion in the land of the living.
Attend unto my cry; for I am brought very low: deliver me from my persecutors; for they are stronger than I.
Bring my soul out of prison, that I may praise thy name: the righteous shall compass me about; for thou shalt deal bountifully with me. (KJV)

10) You need help, you’re broken or simply wicked. Stop using people, learn to take humans seriously if you don’t have the energy to build genuine relationships never start one.

Me: Thank you so much for your response. I really appreciate.

Ezi: Thank you too❤

Second Guest

Moving to the second person. My very supportive friend who shares Bible studies with me and tries to engage on as many posts as possible on this blog.

Without much words, I introduce you to he.

Williams

Me: Can you introduce yourself?

Williams: Williams Abiola Olusegun (full name)
HND Electrical Electronics Engineering (sokoto state Polytechnic)
I just like doing things differently (uniquely)..

Me: Can you describe yourself in four words?

Williams: Introvert with little traces on extrovert.

Me: Can you explain what it means to feel used?

Williams: Someone to feel used: This is can be in different situation but I will use the day to day human relationships. When someone decides to repeatedly do something good to another with the hope of getting something similar or more in return…But the desired results isn’t coming… that person will feel used… especially when the person at the receiving end keeps on accepting the good gesture. NB: that something/gesture can be gifts, money, love, care etc

questions
  1. Have you ever felt used before?
  2. How did you realize it?
  3. How did you respond at first?
  4. How did it affect you?
  5. Did you learn any lesson from the experience?
  6. What different thing will you do if you find yourself in a similar situation?
  7. Do you think God allows some of these situations or we are the ones responsible for them happening?
  8. Is it any way appropriate to use someone for personal interest even if the person does not protest?
  9. What advice will you give to anyone who feels used?
  10. What words will you share with those who use others?
Answers

1.YES

2.IT HAPPENED REPEATEDLY WITH DIFFERENT PERSONS.

3.I REALLY FELT BAD.

4.I SHOULD NOT TRUST TOO MUCH AND NOT EXPECT TOO MUCH.

5.IT ACTUALLY SHAPED ME FOR THE BETTER BECAUSE I REALISED THAT I SHOULD ONLY DO THINGS I KNOW I CAN DO AND EVEN IF I DONT GET SAME BACK I WONT FEEL TOO BAD.

6.TRY NOT TO EXPECT TOO MUCH AND IF WHAT AM DOING IS NOT NECESSARY I TAKE MY LEAVE.

7.I THINK GOD CAN ALLOW IT TO TEACH US LESSONS AND SOMETIMES WE ARE RESPONSIBLE (WHEN IT HAPPENS REPEATEDLY AND ONE STILL ALLOW IT TO CONTINUE)

8.NO BUT IN SOME CASES THERE IS A WAY ONE SHOULD LET THE OTHER KNOW ALL THE TERMS WELL.

9.TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TO AVOID SUCH SITUATIONS.. IT CAN DAMAGE SOMEONE… IT LEADS TO DIFFERENT THINGS (LOW SEL ESTEEM,HATRED,SUICIDE, MURDER ETC)

10.PLEASE AND PLEASE DESIST FROM THIS ACT… YOU ARE DOING MORE DAMAGES THAN YOU CAN THINK.

Me: Thank you. I really appreciate your responses.

Williams: You welcome.

My response

I appreciate their responses and without adding much to what they said, I do believe that as much as we should have a meaningful purpose behind our relationships, we should treat people as human as possible.

Do not toy with other people’s feelings. Do not trample on their integrity and sincerity.

If you have made it a habit, this post encourages and warns you to stop.

If you are not aware if you do such, read this post again to pick out points that may indicate that you do.

And if you have felt used before, this post is a reminder not to allow such experiences to define your worth or cause you to stop being that humane and lovely person that you are.

Ending verse
Phillipians 2: 1-4 (AMP) 

Therefore if there is any encouragement and comfort in Christ [as there certainly is in abundance], if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship [that we share] in the Spirit, if [there is] any [great depth of] affection and compassion,  make my joy complete by being of the same mind, having the same [a]love [toward one another], knit together in spirit, intent on one purpose [and living a life that reflects your faith and spreads the gospel—the good news regarding salvation through faith in Christ].  Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves.  Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

Your thoughts are welcomed below in the comment sections and if you wish to reply to any of the questions, you are welcomed.

Until next post. God bless.

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