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BlogMas 3: DAY 13

PREAMBLE

Today is the 13th day.

Gradually, I have reached today and I am so grateful.

Thank you for being here.

BEFORE YOU DIE

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Are there things you want to do?

Before you die?

If you were to know the exact day of your death, what would you do differently now?

What plans would you give more attention to accomplish?

Who would you show more love and appreciation?

If you were to know the exact day of your death, would you regret now?

What are you doing with your now?

What aspect of your life are you wasting away?

That would bring you regrets

NO REGRETS

In recent times, I have been trying not to harbour regrets.

Many things have happened this year to make me feel regretful.

Despite my efforts to avoid regretful situations

I have been exploring different ways to deal with this feeling and one of them is numbing it down.

I try to ignore the feeling.

It has happened

In situations where I tried the best I knew, I say

Atleast I tried my best

Living without regret is intentional. It does not happen accidentally.

Some people have a carefree attitude that help them take life lightly. They rarely allow situations weigh them down.

Jolly Jolly

I have in recent times been trying to do things I would not normally do.

I have always felt I have so much to do within a short time and because of that I made myself a busy person.

Who still makes out time for Instagram, YouTube and some Facebook mindless scrolling

I have always made sure to do something worthwhile everyday.

To me, it means ticking off my no-regret-welldone-day box.

NO REGRETS AGAIN

Psalms 119:9  Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. (KJV)

Recently, I created a scenario and asked myself if I would regret the life I am living assuming I am giving an opportunity to live it again or in another way.

I could not pick a lot of things to regret especially when it came to the principle guiding my life.

What if the things you did not do was allowed by God? What if modesty was not necessary? What if abstinence was not a big deal?

I asked these and more and I could not find a reason to regret because I am at peace and comfortable with the principles that have guided my living.

Not doing many things have saved me from unnecessary discomfort and situations

The Bible which is the foundation of my life principles has a balanced view of life and in following it, I have experienced peace, clarity and a sense of purpose.

I have also been opportune to live a more healthy physical, emotional and spiritual life because of the principles in the Bible and I do not regret the choices I have made because of it.

Psalms 119:11  Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. (KJV)

And because it has been healthy to my being

CHECKING REASONS

Psalms 90:12  So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (KJV)

I am being intentional about living a life I would be pleased to review at the end if my life. A life I can smile at and say “Girl you tried your best”.

I tell God everyday to help me live the life I am meant to live.

I tell God to help me dispense every good and beautiful gifts He has given me.

I tell God to help me experience people and opportunities to express my creativity healthily.

The journey has been gradual and I am grateful for the process. I trust God to make the dreams in my heart a reality.

NOW TO YOU

Do you make use of to do list?

Are you happy with your life right now?

How often are you regretful?

Any painful regrets?

Any possible regret you think you will have before death happens?

Who needs to experience your love and appreciation more?

What principles guide your current lifestyle?

SOMETHING ELSE

I wrote a book that was inspired by thoughts before dying.

It is a fiction. A collection of short stories.

You can find it here:

THIS IS THE END

CONCLUSION

In order to beat time, I have been publishing my posts before the day runs out.

My days have been quite busy and I intentionally wait until most of the day is over before I type.

Today, I tried to be useful. I thought I would do much but the body aches from the stress I mentioned in Day 12 were complaining.

Today was still spent in a productive way and I am grateful for that.

N.B Everyday is an opportunity for me to learn something new. For example, today I discovered a new feature while writing this post and I love it and will keep using it in future posts. I love when I get these experiences.

I am still working on the satire I mentioned earlier during this series and if you are not yet on my mailing list, subscribe by clicking the image below. I will be sharing the book cover and asking for opinions soon.

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Looking forward to your contributions.

Until DAY 14, stay safe and God bless.

#daughterofabba

CAVEWOMAN 3

Evolution of a solitary being

Regrets

And because she refuses to grow, she experiences regrets she should not experience.

The things she should have done.

The places she have gone.

The people she should have shown her affection to.

The people she should have allowed to go.

The people she should have given a chance.

All these boil down to Memories that are bitter sweet with what ifs……

Regrets are bred from longings that were not fullfiled either because of an internal or an external factor.

I hate regrets but because of the factors I have already mentioned, I have had to face regrets as a consequence of actions.

It is one thing to wish, it is another for the wish to be fulfilled.

A wish becomes a regret if left unfulfilled.

God fulfills His promises.

He will come true. It is not just a wish with God, it is a promise. 

Proverbs 23:18 For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off.(KJV)

With God there is certainty .

This is something God has been teaching me. With Him, I am certain of my future. 

Psalms 37:37 Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.(KJV)

And I will add this song… 

You don't have to worry
And don't you be afraid
Joy comes in the morning 
Trouble may not last always 
For there's a friend in Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if your heart is broken 
Just lift your voice and say
I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

As life progresses, avoiding regrets may be hard but it is possible to reduce its incidence.

Through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, we can a live a life that is led by God.

And a life led by God is not governed by regrets.

How are you coping with regrets?

I hope to see you in the next part.

Digital art can be gotten here

Until then

Still

#fromamedicalstudentfaraway

STUCK IN THE PAST: LETTING GO🏜

Preamble (as usual)🐦

I like to ruminate on past events in my life. I love to dig up memories and play them over and over again. It is like a lazy past time. I love to check the places I made mistakes, and make changes from them or probably check my current life to see if I am repeating it. I love to play with thoughts of “what if”, “maybe”, “probably” and bleh blah bleh

The original preamble should have been that this is one of the old post I am sharing now but..there are two extremely notorious ones that are more than a year. They are still on my list looking at me with a look of disappointment 😠😡😑😒 that I have refused to share them. If only they knew that they are so important or maybe I am too lazy to stress my brain yet……

I hope they dont threaten to leave with the original content🤐

ENE🌻

Ene was that kind of girl that put her heart into everything she did. You can call her too sensitive. It could be exciting to be with her but also frightening because she took everything very serious.

The worst part was she rarely ever faced the future.

As her friend I can tell you that I am tired of consoling and advicing her. She thinks I am perfect without horrible events in my past. She thinks I have the most wonderful relationship, family and whatsoever. I love her but she scares me with how much she loves to hold unto people. She is coming, let me stop my narration before she catches me red handed.

“Hibi!” Ene exclaimed

“Why are you exclaiming. You saw me in the morning” I replied as I tried to arrange my books I had thrown on the bed we shared.

“Yes but I was thinking of you throughout the class” Ene said as she laid on the bed in a supine position

“That still sounds weird” I said as I squeezed my forehead in disgust😂😂😂😂😂

“Whatever. You have too much love, that is why mine is like trash” she said as waved her hand at me before putting it on her forehead

Not again!! How did this connect with love?

“What happened again?” I asked trying to sound concerned. I already knew she was going to start telling her tales of woes. I was trying so hard not to roll my eyes and join my forehead🙄🙄

“Well, I have been thinking of what you have been saying, and……” she sighed as if she was trying to hold back tears

“What is wrong?” I was truly concerned as I went close to her on the bed. She was covering her eyes now with her right hand

“Well, I saw Frances today. He was with Ese from the Horticulture department. He looked so happy and that made me realize that I really needed to move on” she was tearing already, I could see the tears staining her face

I was quiet, she talked about Frances to the point I was beyond irritated. I had told her several times to stop wishing anything back with him. He had not bothered to reach out to her for months, it was very obvious he was no longer interested in their relationship.

“He meant his words and I always wonder if I was a nuisance to him” she continued

“Did he tell you that?” I asked

“No. But seeing how he looked so happy today proved that to me. He never smiled that genuinely the one year we dated”

“Well, sometimes people just cant seem to be themselves with some people but find that comfortability with others. If he was polite in breaking up and maintaining that space. It would be best for you to move on”

“You have said that many times, so I know that already. I have finally decided to move on. I dont hate him or whatever but….I find it hard to let go of the memories I shared with people”

“I dont think any normal functioning emotional human finds it easy but it is healthy to know that it is unwise to chase the wind. You cannot catch it, it would run away leaving you more depressed and frustrated” I was sincere in my tone. I had said this to her like so many times but this time I felt she was finally truthful to herself.

“Thank you Hibi” she said she sat up and hugged me, her tears staining my shirt

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My talk🐦

You see…some people are highly sensitive and hold unto to others too much. They place this importance in their mind around particular persons, and even though this is not bad in itself, it can sometimes be very difficult to let go.

Seasons change, and sometimes friends and relationships do too.

We make mistakes, most times we did not plan or hope that they happened.

When we spend so much time on what happened in the past, we keep living there while the world moves without us. It is as if you got stuck while the time machine disappeared.

Memories are beautiful when they inspire you to move forward. That should be their purpose.

N.B There is an actual post on Memories🌈

Life happens everyday. You chose to allow it happen for you or you chose to get swallowed up in regrets.

If it does not inspire you, then you better discard it. If it does not cause innovation, then maybe you should trash it. When the seasons change, you dont have to fight it because it has changed. When the relationships end, if they dont want it, let them go. If you dont want it, let them know (hard, even for me. I most times do the silent method🐢)

The story was spontanoeously written for this post. I could be Ene and I am learning to be Hibi

Accept what has happened and moving on has become a practice for me.

Let me add….

If you really didnt do anything significant to end a relationship, dont bang your head on the wall. It is not because you are horrible or not good enough. It may also not be that the other person is. Priorities and focus change, humans too… That is it.

If you actually did something that was wrong, be apologetic and get better for the next person (if the other person involved has no interest again)

Something else📣

I made a podcast a year ago, and it is actually my first podcast on a topic similar to this. You can check it out on Anchor. I will share the link to that here:

Listen to this episode of my podcast, RoseCast, The Past https://anchor.fm/onyiyechi-roseline-agwu/episodes/The-Past-e2fp85

I feel there should be more to this but I will end here. ……. ….

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