THE YARDSTICK OF SELF-WORTH

Preamble

Welcome here….

This topic……

Is a month or two on my list…

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After reading, share your comments as well (they are welcomed)

Measurement

We have different measuring standards and they have a role to play for different situations.

Did that make sense?

We use measuring standard for different purposes.

I am repeating myself but you understand, right?

My favourite measurement standard is the automatic because it is accurate to the decimal.

So

How do we measure self-worth?

What measurement do we use?

What is self-worth?

Self-worth is understanding personal value.

It is the sum of qualities that makes a person worthy of being themselves.

Self-worth is a state of appreciating your uniqueness and your contribution to the world.

What other definition?

All definitions used were not from the dictionary, give yours in the comment section.

Does everyone have worth?

Yes

Because they were made by God.

God created everyone to have worth.

Can a person lose their worth?

It depends.

A person can lose their sense of worth.

It depends

A person can become worthless if they choose to.

It depends

A worthless person?

It depends

Quantifying self-worth

This topic has been on my heart for a while and maybe in older posts, I have mentioned it.

I am still on the journey on understanding the concept of the worth of my existence.

How worthy am I?

I have had to discard thoughts, patterns, words, comments and actions that have antagonized my worth.

From whence can I judge how worthy I am?

What makes me worthy?

Why am I worthy of any good thing?

For those of us who are still struggling with words, comments, those words were planted as seeds that grew to become gigantic trees.

And these trees cannot be uprooted with bare hands but need bigger equipments to cut and dig further into stubborn roots.

These evil trees grew because lies were constantly supplied to fuel them and because they were evil seeds, they grew fast.

The result or rather the consequence?

They robbed us of an identity we were suppose to cherish.

A being loved enough to be created

Just incase you needed to know what negative words are.

Back to the heading….

Self-worth is quantified according to the measure of relevance.

Worth depends on value.

And sometimes value is priceless.

How worthy are you?

Source of worth

If you are observant, you will realize that self-worth as used in this post is not narcissism neither is it obsession with self.

Because there is a thin line away from self-obsession

Honestly, I do not feel completely comfortable using the prefix self..

It sounds conceited. It sounds proud. It sounds off

Understanding your worth includes understanding the amount of value you add to your environment and how much that value is helping others.

But there is a need to know the source of worth.

From whence can we derive our worth?

Now, the source has to be one that is not compromised neither limited.

The source has to be more than we are. The source has to be unending and easy to access.

Let me return to what I was saying about my journey. For the last two years, I have been learning to see my worth through God’s eyes and because this is not a habit for me, I have ben failing.

I have been listening to words I should not

But God is kind (one of my favourite phrase) and He always reminds me of my source: HIM.

God is the source of worth.

And God is the best reminder.

Psalms 139:14-18  I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee. (KJV)

Our worth is in God alone and through Christ’s sacrifice on the cross, God’s love is stamped even more.

Our worth cannot come from ourselves because we are too flawed and cannot keep up with the measure and on the days when we need to be lifted, we can look up to Our Source who is ever constant.

Beauty. Talent. Wealth. Connections are still flawed. They cannot replace the space that God fills.

1 Peter 2:9-10  But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvellous light:
 Which in time past were not a people, but are now the people of God: which had not obtained mercy, but now have obtained mercy.(KJV)

There is a space only God fills

So for those of us still uprooting the seeds that God did not plant, it is important to replace the empty spaces with God’s word. Do not leave them empty because strange words will still try to fill them up.

It may be tough unlearning but it is worth it.

And when your worth is based on God, you neither place yourself above nor beneath, because there would be balance.

Because God is the balance for our world (paraphrased from Quiet Memoirs 4)

So…

What is your price?

If I tell you that the answer is = Priceless, would you believe me?

Wait….

If I tell you that you are priceless and that Jesus makes you beyond priceless, would you believe me?

If you have questions, first check this post FINDING GOD

There is something there for you, if you have not checked it before.

Conclusion

In a conversation with a human I like, we shared our opinions regarding dealing emotional trauma and learning to unlearn. We also shared some strict stances we had to take in other to protect the healthy seeds God had planted in our hearts. At the tail end of our conversation, we both agreed that in other to grow healthily in our mind, we had to constantly chose God’s word and focus on God.

If you do not battle with feeling confident, pass some of your light to others. Do not trample on their confidence with your words and actions.

Arts used in this post were made by me.

See you in next post by God’s grace.

Stay well and blessed💙

#daughterofabba

Recluse

Preamble

You are reading this post weeks after it has been written.

Thank you.

Hermit

A synonym of Recluse

Hermit Crab?

Space

Quiet Memoirs 2

N. B I would like your interpretation of the poem in the comment section.

As an introvert and HSP, space is too fundamental to get myself together. I crave for space because it allows me to refresh and think.

Intrusion from outside bad

I mostly love to have enough time and space to air my thoughts in order to process the multiple motions going inside my mind.

(If you read the last post, you would understand).

Sometimes, space is more important to me that conversing with others because for me to converse with others, I need to be in the right place myself.

You get?

Therefore, sometimes I prefer to stay away from others but unfortunately I cannot avoid or prevent others from coming to me and sometimes that can ruin the whole purpose of me seeking isolation.

You get?

A Hub for creativity

As much as some of these may not be a favourite because of the whirling and swirling emotions, they have also been times of reflections and creativity.

I often make unique things during these moments because I pour my emotion and concentration into what I am creating.

More like a getaway

And because of how precious these moments are, most of what I come up with cannot be recreated. They instead serve as flashback or statements of recovery.

Recovery from isolation

Quiet Memoirs 2

N. B I would like your interpretation of the poem in the comment section.

Where to Run

In the past, I often pushed God out of these moments.

I instead got swallowed up in myself and all I was experiencing.

However, I have come to learn that I can only find pure comfort in God. I cannot do it alone.

So, even though it may be hard to surrender to God at those times, I know that I would not be better without Him.

God is always available

Psalms 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. (King James Version)

I need to run to God.

at all times

I need to stay in God

at all times

You need to run to God

at all times

You need to stay in God

at all times

Psalms 91:1 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. (King James Version) 

God is refuge

at all times

Are you like me?

What you do with your isolation moments?

#fromamedicalstudentfaraway

DON’T OFFEND ME 🙃😶😏😒

“Don’t provoke me to anger. Don’t provoke me to anger” he squeezed his face and hands as his feet tapped to his weird song I think he composed.

I described a scene from one of the music or talent auditions where amazing people show talents they don’t have, and family members dont stop them from going.

🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔🐓🐔

Chickens…….

How do you deal with offences?

How do you respond?

How do you react?

How do you cope?

There are things we cannot avoid as existing humans, and one of them is: Getting offended

Somebody will step on your toes but the most important part is how you react and handle these situations when you are confronted with them.

So the questions lies in: What kind of offences are even the important ones? Or… .What kind of offences can we ignore?

I will not give specifics because… We are all different and have different principles that organize our lives.

But

I will say that; the offences which really have nothing to do with harming us, offences that we can shut our ears too. You know them…

Okay, let me give example 🙄🙄

If someone calls you big head, you can decide to ignore especially if you dont have big head 😂😂

If someone stepped on your real toes, you can ignore. He or she will remove their shoes 😂😂

If someone insulted you, you dont have to insult back 😁😁

If. . . .. 😆😆

Truth be told there are issues which can just let the sleeping dog lie.

These issues will not produce any fruitful results when you decide to dwell om them.

The questions you need ask yourself are:

• What will I gain from doing this?
• What change am I expecting?
• What impact will it make?
• Will my response have an effect on the other person? Like will it help them?
• Will I even get relieved from my annoyance or will it escalate?
• Will? What?

Whatever.. .you want to add. .🐜🐜

There are certain situations you will need to confront people on and even in those situations you dont have to spit out your opinions anyhow. Dont spit like Llamas😒😒. I mean you dont have to be abusive or insulting, you will still not pass your message across.

It is best you pick your words and the most suitable ones for that situations and intelligently trash it out. Intelligent words will stick when you are confronting another for a wrong doing🙂

Dont express yourself when you are extremely angry. It is best you do it when you feel more comported, you will pass your message better.

You can close your(I wanted to say ya) eye and walk(waka) past 🚶🚶🚶🚶

In the book of Proverbs 17:28, it says “A fool, when he holds his mouth is considered wise. ..”(Paraphrased). There are so many passages talking on that in this book. I find this very funny 😂😂. You got(gat) to hold your mouth. Your opinion must not be spilled all the time especially when you are angry! 🙃🙃

Dont store offences and dont go looking for one. Save yourself unnecessary stress.

Stress can cause peptic ulcer 🙃🙃 and compromise your health too. If you are always on the edge looking for who will offend you, you are putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation for nothing.

Just know that people will offend you. You cannot avoid it but you can always deal with your response 💁

Maturity comes at a price. ..

And handling offences is one of them.

if you have a bad temper, anger issues, please see a doctor. Deal with it. Go for therapy. Go for a dance class. Go gyming. Go do charity. Go wash toilet…. .

Direct your excess emotions to creativity, to productivity. Make the world better🌫

Especially before you involve someone else in your life, deal with these issues very well.

I have met certain humans who have and tried and tested my patience. N. B I did not always win

I have met humans who had great control over their emotions. N. B they taught me so much 😊

We need more rational people, more matured people. Can you be one of them?

Finally: I listened to Lauvie Ajayi on Ted Talk on Youtube and she sparked me more 💞. Stand for the right, they may not like you but they will respect you.. .

Me in my corner, climbing the steps gradually 📈💪💪

I did a podcast on this topic, I said somethings I did not say here and plus music too 😁😁. Don’t Offend Me

Have a productive day 🌻🌿

#fromamedicalstudentfaraway